tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3520413.post52341749514650635..comments2023-10-11T03:54:58.698-06:00Comments on Randall Friesen: The value of CommunityRandall Friesenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04112919973262687369noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3520413.post-68143894781543067952006-12-08T10:13:30.000-07:002006-12-08T10:13:30.000-07:00Do you think that part of the reason we don't ...Do you think that part of the reason we don't have close friends is the fear of letting people get too close, are we afraid of being hurt? <br><br>I know I have often been too insecure to be a friend. What if they don't like me?<br><br>It is a very interesting post and one I agree with. Our view of friendships have changed over the years.peghttp://theykherd.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3520413.post-27119991929110172872006-12-08T17:27:35.000-07:002006-12-08T17:27:35.000-07:00I would tend to take it a bit further. I agree th...I would tend to take it a bit further. I agree that many people have few or no close friends... I take it a step further. I think - I have no research to back this up - that people have wider 'social' circles though. I've been noticing that people my age and younger know a lot of people, usually through the internet. They know them, but don't KNOW them if you catch my meaning.<br><br>I even find that they prefer talking over the internet - after all it's a way to feel connected without actually being connected. While I do enjoy the internet - it's a way cheaply to keep in contact with my sister in New Zealand, and a few other people I know - in a lot of ways I hate it. You can't understand the tone of what the person is saying, you can't see their face, are they serious? funny? sarcastic? So much you just can't tell by the written word.<br><br>My insecurity or the reason I don't have a lot of close friends besides the one? After awhile it gets tiresome. By that I mean, that I do try to call, or e-mail or stay in contact. I really do. But how many e-mails, phone calls does a person have to give without the other person returning them? If confronted - let's face it outspoken I am! - there is always an excuse.<br><br>Right now as I'm going though quite a dark time in life, it does hurt that I have so few around me. The few that are there, are busy in their own lives and don't seem to believe my cries of everything is not okay. While understandable, it also makes it even more difficult to build up those 'junior' friendships into 'senior' friendships. After all who wants a friend that won't be there to hand kleenixs, take you out, call you or show some concern over the pain that a person feels.<br><br>Well, another soap box for me apparently! I do agree with your musings though is the short version!Taranoreply@blogger.com